"Marriage is not 50-50; divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It isn't dividing everything in half, but giving everything you've got!" - Dave Willis
Nowadays, I see people that are getting married instantly. Let's face it, not 100% of wedded couples got married because of love. Some couple got married because of peer pressure, unwanted pregnancy, and some couple got married because they "thought" it's the right thing to do because they "thought" that they're truly in love with each other. I'm not saying that marriage is a negative thing. It's the sweetest thing ever but could possibly be your worst nightmare, too. So, I want to share these few things that are worth considering before getting married. (Note: These are just my opinion.)
· Be true to yourself
Is it because you love your partner deeply? Is it because your partner is so damn good-looking and famous? Is it because your sweetie pie is powerful and has a lot of money that he/she could give anything to you? Is it because your Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie could give you a hell of orgasms? BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. Only you can answer such questions.
· Family of both sides
Are you in good condition with your partner's family? Do they like you, adore you, happy and excited to see you every time you visit their home? How about your parents and your partner's parents, do they get along? Are they comfortable talking with each other? If not, think not just twice, think million times if possible. Because you are not just going to marry your partner, you are also going to marry his/her family. Bitter truth. (This one may not be suitable for all because of cultural differences.)
· Please? Sure. (Pleasure)
Are you compatible on bed? I know some people won't do it until marriage, I respect that, but this is just my honest opinion. Some wedded couples just end up separating because they lack intimacy. Others fill their sexual desires by searching for Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. I guess we can never blame them.
· "Gotta have it"
Money matters especially when you already have kids. Money isn't the most important thing in life, but it's reasonably close to oxygen on the "gotta have it" scale. Just simply think or ask our OFWs (Overseas Filipino Workers) why they work abroad than to stay in the country with their family. Not so sweet reality.
· Forget about yourself
Marrying the "love of your life" is almost forgetting about yourself. Of course! You must love and serve your other half. You must give your full attention to him/her. You must be 110% sure that he/she is always grateful about your marriage. Giving is the ultimate sacrifice. There's no "I" and "my" but "us" and "we". When you give to your spouse, it comes from a healthy place inside that says "what I have belongs to you". Remember, the moment that you decided to get married, it will never be just about you.